Kate's Accidents
The kind of accidents I am talking about are the ones that should be going in the toilet. I am out of ideas dealing with Kate and having accidents(both kinds) in her underwear. I have tried both negative and positive reinforcement and nothing works. She has an accident at least two times a day. I have tried Pull-ups and she ends up pulling them down when we're not looking. It's extremely frustrating at night because she is almost always peeing the bed and then I am washing her sheets all the time. I started telling her I was only going to wash her sheets once a week like I normally do and that if she has an accident she'll have to sleep in it. At first it really bothered her and she didn't have as many accident but now she doesn't care. I was even taping her Pull-up on at night after she fell asleep so she couldn't take it off. It worked but I just didn't want to have to keep doing it. I go in waves with her because I know part of it is not her fault. She still has constipation issues and so when she is sleeping at night and her body relaxes the urine that was backed up just comes out. I'll be really positive for awhile and do rewards and tell her how good shes doing and say "it's okay" when she has accidents but then it just finally wears on me and I turn into this mean mom who is always getting after her about her accidents. I'm allowing this to bring out the worst in me as a mother and I hate it. It stresses me out because it increases my laundry, my cleaning around the house and takes up extra time having to remember to remind her to go to the bathroom. It's gotten to the point where I have to remind her almost every time. This past two weeks have been really hard because Doug went out of town for 5 days and then Alexa and I were sick and so I was just getting back on top of things again and Kate started having more accidents so I've been really stressed about it. I know this time will pass and it makes me sad because Kate is such a sweet, cute little girl and I feel like I am missing out on who she is because I am always getting upset with her about the accidents. If anyone has any advice on this subject I would really appreciate it.







